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Are you more black or white?

Are you more black or white?

Are you more black than you are white?

Are you more white?

You look so white today!

You sound so black haha!








I have to laugh at these questions and statements I receive from people instead of showing my anger.

Because I do get angry, I get really angry when people assume that I favour one of my ethnicities to the other.

I am a mixed raced woman. I am mixed with English and Jamaican heritage. I am proud of my dual heritage.

I am proud to be a mixed raced woman.

So therefore I don't know how to answer the question 'are you more black than white?' because I'm neither. I am equally 50% black and 50% white. I do not favour my black heritage more than my white heritage, even though many people assume this - especially when you have a dominant black parent/family in your life, or vice versa.

I honestly get very insulted when people ask me these questions because why should I conform to your assumption and say that I identify more as black? 

Lord knows that if I said I identify more as white all hell would break loose, and that is due to the colour of my skin. I am darker than a white person so people assume that I am black, or that I favour my black heritage more. 

I do not.

I don't favour either of my heritage's more.

I don't identify with either side more because I am so proud that I come from two ethnicities, I am proud to be the product of two cultures coming together.

It is very offensive when people also tell me that I look white when I straighten my hair or that I sound black... Like when these words come out of your mouth do you not realise how insulting they are?

Why do I sound or look like a particular race? Yes I have elements of both races but by tying me to down to just one of those races, I am offended and I see it as pure ignorance on your behalf.

People don't seem to comprehend mixed race people. They don't seem to understand that mixed race people are products of two or more cultures coming together, because a lot of mixed race people have darker skin than white people, most people assume mixed race people to be black. This is ignorance. This is not understanding mixed race people.

Now whilst people cannot seem to comprehend mixed race people, people are obsessed with mixed race babies - and it's disgusting.

Growing up all I heard from girls was that they want a mixed race baby when they grow up.


Mixed race babies are not a fashion item, even though they are portrayed to be.

When you have a mixed child, you're responsible in making sure that your child knows the cultures and backgrounds they come from. You have to take in your partner's culture.

No one things about that, they just think about how cute the babies will be.

But mixed race babies are not a fashion item.

They are humans.

Do not be ignorant and carry on assuming that mixed race people are black or that mixed race people only identify with their black ethnicity or vice versa. I am proud to have my black heritage as much as I am proud to have my white heritage.

Many people are proud to be from more than one culture.

I am a proud mixed race woman, and no one can take that away from me.

Thoughts from an 18-Year-Old Adoptee

Thoughts from an 18-Year-Old Adoptee